Adolescent and parental conflicts arise in different ways. The common issues of these are the disagreements on what is desirable, what is appropriate, what is right and wrong, what is allowed and not allowed, what is essential, and some others that adolescents and their parents often disagree on. But what are the causes of these conflicts?
Age gap, sometimes synonymous to generation gap is considered as the main cause of parental and adolescent conflicts. In a traditional home setting, parents are the ones who call the shots. They are the ones who are followed and the ones who impose the rules. But due the emerging individualism of Americans, diversity is observed. Parents are more lenient to their kids nowadays and allow them to speak their side of the story. Adolescents today are freer to speak up about their opinions and ideas, which encourages a different level of communication with their parents. Although in general, this is a good thing, there are some concerns arise between adolescent and their parents.
Awareness of the causes of conflicts is essential in maintaining a healthy relationship between adolescents and their parents. Being able to distinguish the causes makes it easier to come up with a resolution. The resolution in almost anything is the understanding where each person is coming from. (Devore, 2006, 64) Parents, being the better-experienced ones, should be able to understand that their kids are still learning the ropes so patience is essential. Accordingly, adolescent kids should not abuse their freedom for nothing is infinite. Respect to its truest sense is integral and should be given to everyone and not to elders alone and should not end with greetings and some other external gestures but also extends to understanding the differences of people, especially of different ages.
Devore, D. M. (2006). Parent-child relations: New research. New York: Nova Science Publishers.